Tuesday, November 5, 2013

"The Story" - To Date

I am pregnant.  With QUADRUPLETS!  There! I said it. You’d think that after several months of breaking the news to friends, family, and strangers you’d get used to that phrase, but in reality, I’m not sure if that will ever happen.

We are approximately 17 weeks along, so we are well into our second trimester and doing well but with such a high risk pregnancy, things can change at a moment’s notice.

Undoubtedly, there’s a lot for me to catch you up on so I decided to give you a little bit of history here.

Here goes:

Adam and I were married on November 24, 2012. That’s right, our one-year anniversary is quickly approaching. It’s been one heck of a first year of marriage! There’s been both ups and downs, but perhaps the biggest thing to happen to us, is (1) getting pregnant and (2) finding out it is quadruplets.

If you read my section about our infertility story, you know I have PCOS.  That means I do not ovulate.  (If you are curious: http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/polycystic-ovary-syndrome.cfm.) If you read that post, you know that yes, we had some assistance getting pregnant. We took medications and had an IUI to get pregnant. It took a lot of medications: letrozole, gonal f, menopur, cetrotide, HCG-Chronic Gonadotropin, along with progesterone were all used as part of my treatment plan. You can read more of the specifics under “Our Infertility Story”.

August 20, 2013 was a HUGE day for us! It was our first ultrasound during which we were to confirm the heartbeat and “numbers”. We didn’t really think much about “numbers” going into it. As hard as it was for us to conceive, we thought surely there was only one baby!  Together, we entered the room both nervous to make sure our little “bean” was growing well. To our surprise, a concerned look quickly came over our doctor’s face. I couldn’t see the ultrasound screen from where I was so I began looking to Adam for comfort. He was trying to see the screen but couldn’t; immediately, we both were overcome with a sense of doom. That’s when our doctor shared the news with us! What we thought was him having trouble finding the heartbeat was in reality, him having trouble counting the number of heartbeats. In a matter of minutes, we got to hear all four of our precious babies’ heartbeats. To say we were shocked would be an understatement! 

Then came possibly the worst thing I’ve ever experienced in my life! I’m sharing this simply because never knowing anyone in this situation, I would have never guessed that this takes place. It goes against everything that Adam and I believe and I think it’s safe to say that I speak for both of us when I say we were hurt by it.  Immediately following hearing those first little beats of our babies’ hearts, we were advised to see a specialist about having a reduction. They wanted us to “choose” which two of our babies got a chance at life and which two would never take their first breaths! Adam put his hand on my back and I could tell we were on the same page. Immediately, we knew that was not something we would even consider. While we had definitely been put on the hot seat, we knew that God has a bigger plan and we would let His will be done. We are not so naive to think that there aren't risks involved with carrying four babies; but we feel confident that God has us in His hands and he will lead us down this path.

The months that followed brought many more doctors’ appointments. We continued to see our specialist up until 9 weeks gestation at which point, we knew we had to transfer to a maternal/fetal specialist. We chose Texas Children’s Hospital to be our primary care provider as well as to deliver the babies. Their NICU is one of the best in the world and knowing that our babies will probably spend a significant amount of time there, we wanted to choose wisely.

To date, we have received some of the best care imaginable there and are very satisfied with our choice. While I am technically assigned to one doctor, I have a team of 10 doctors who are all contributing to my treatment plan. Every member of the staff has been amazingly helpful to us as we have begun this journey.

Last week, on October 31, 2014, we went in for a 16 week growth scan to make sure all babies were developing as they should. It was a two hour ultrasound and we got a peak at each babies heart, kidneys, and bladder. But possibly the most exciting part was getting to find out that God is so GOOD to us he gave us 2 little boys and 2 little girls! We are extremely excited as this eases a lot of issues that arise when having multiples – splitting up bedrooms, if there’s an odd number, will one always be left out? You’d be amazed at how many things there are to consider! Plus, Adam is extremely excited to have a couple of sons to go hunting and fishing with (not saying that our girl’s won’t)!

So this brings us to today.  It’s crazy to think there are FOUR babies in my belly; two little girls and two little boys!!   The odds of quadruplets unassisted are 1 in 729,000. Assisted reproduction increases your odds to 1 in 142,000.  It’s kind of like we hit the lottery baby wise!  While the first trimester was really tough, thanks to extreme fatigue, it’s starting to ease up a little bit at this point. I am starting to get quite a few sharp pains from their growth and I’m starting to be able to feel them moving inside me. Adam is ready to be able to feel them too! We have a feeling that is right around the corner!

We sincerely appreciate all of your prayers and support! We are so blessed to be surrounded by so many wonderful family, friends and church family! You all mean the world to us!  The plan is that I will continue to update the blog throughout the pregnancy; but at some point, we know it will be that Adam will have to take over. While he may not post as many stories, he will definitely keep everyone aware of what’s going on!


2 comments:

  1. Misty, I'm so glad you have a blog. Great way to share your story! I'm very interested in keeping up with the quads!!

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  2. Texas Children's is such a fabulous facility, while I can't tell you what you'll experience up until birth - I can tell you that recovery is amazing. Nurses are great and even the food is great. We almost stayed an extra day for the room service!

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